Jun 25, 2007
i got this from yahOo!

Question: Why do I get so jealous when my partner talks to other people?

Answer
: When you first connected with your partner and looked into their eyes, it felt like he or she was the only person in the room. As you get deeper into your relationship and call yourselves a couple, the realization hits you: You and your partner are not alone on this planet. There are others! Are they a threat?
When we are in a committed relationship, we assume the connection we have with each other will be strong enough to fend off outside threats. In some ways, this you-belong-to-me-and-I-belong-to-you mentality is sweet; it's the stuff of pop songs and poetry. But sometimes the intensity of that connection is too strong.
When one partner sees everyone whom his or her partner comes into contact with as a potential threat, it is
a sign that jealousy has taken hold
a sign that jealousy has taken hold. Shakespeare called it "the green-eyed monster," and once it gets a hold of your relationship, it sinks its teeth in and can rip it apart.

What causes jealousy?
If you've got strong feelings of jealousy, it's probably a sign that you don't have enough trust in your partner that he or she is being faithful to you. That lack of trust may be prompted by one of four factors.
  • You may feel insecure about your self-worth. In these cases, either you've been raised to believe, or some part of your inner self feels, that you just don't measure up. Because you don't love yourself, you can't believe that others would love you, so you live in fear that your partner's "true" feelings will be revealed and she will leave.
  • You're prone to cheating on your partner -- maybe even have done so. Knowing what you're capable of, you project that behavior onto your partner.
  • You and your partner haven't yet figured out how to
    establish safe boundaries within the relationship
    establish safe boundaries within the relationship. Having a tight bond is about building walls around your love with windows that allow others to be part of it -- not doors where competing lovers can walk right in and disrupt your home. Because you don't know what's permissible within the relationship and what's not, you're constantly on your toes.
  • Your mate is cheating on you. Cheating doesn't have to include sex; it often has to do with making emotional connections to others outside the relationship. If your partner is sharing things about your private life with attractive members of the opposite sex, it robs a sense of intimacy from your relationship and leaves you feeling vulnerable.
Knowing the factors that lead to jealousy is an important first step to getting things fixed.
Put your focus on building trust
Put your focus on building trust. If you've got some growing up to do, therapy may help. Both of you have to learn how to set boundaries in the relationship. That requires respecting your mate's definition of limits of outside relationships from the start.
Over time, as trust builds, you and your partner can redefine what feels safe for the relationship. After all, when you've got a great relationship, you want to share it with the world hayy..nwei i do get jealous to my partneer bUT it's just that the way why there's really bothered me....

by foureyed at 11:46 pm
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blog unplugged?

 I would like to say that i'm happpy again to update my blog since i was busy updating my other web accounts! wahahaha.FIY i've been saving precious shots wih important persons in my life,and iv'e ppost it to my accounts_ friendster-yes, i have a friendster account and that is SECRET:) i want it to be secret unless you ask it to me! wahahaha...(sorry haaha that's because i feel special right now, joke xD-connection?)- i want somebody to ask for it first.that's when ill tell my account for yah...and also i have a multiply where i share my other side stories and my special photos. guys, i don't have some ideas ayt now to share huhuhuhu...sad to say that's all?...


by foureyed at 02:00 am
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have you seen Fantastic fouR?

YES! it's fantastic four- the mr. fantastic-the invisible woman-the human torch and the THING!and i want to share that i'm inlove with Chris evans herewith that BODY-whatta sex appeal:) i love it!

three things to watch the movie?

  • 1If you can't get excited about a metallic guy and a dude on fire chasing each other through Manhattan, go see a doctor and have your sense of adventure replaced.
  • 2The Silver Surfer is one of the most powerful characters in the Marvel universe, moving at near-limitless speeds, and augmenting his strength at will - plus he surfs.
  • 3Some comic fans weren't happy with the first movie, but it still grossed over $300 million worldwide. Now director Tim Story can let the heroes out of their apartment for some real action.

    its full packed action and body!- jessica alba and Chris Evans wow^-^

    i've watched it with my ever loving BF! wafang... hehehe and he knows how i reacted when i saw chris body hahaha PEACE baby^-^ v love yah!

     

     

     


  • by foureyed at 01:58 am
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    Jun 24, 2007
    Beautiful Life (La Bella Vita)


    God wont talk to me
    I gues she's pretty busy lately
    I like to believe
    She's listening

    I'm starting to feel
    All of my bruises imagined all real
    I'll get through each day
    Dip through the bad ones
    To get to the good ones
    Who's keeping score anyway

    And this is my beautiful life
    Anly things sudden is everything changes
    Lows and the highs
    And almost goodbyes
    As odd as it get's like which still is amazing
    To be alive
    It's a beautiful life

    I talk in my sleep
    That the one place i know no one can hear me
    I tell my self things
    Walk in the shadows, there's always tommorow
    And I'm right where i want to be

    And this is my beautiful life
    Only things sudden is everything changes
    Lows and the highs
    And almost goodbyes
    As odd as it get's like which still is amazing
    To be alive
    It's a beautyful life

    Oh it hurts while it happened i wanna feel everything
    How can u know till you try
    And this is my beautiful life

    My beautiful life
    Only things sudden is everything changes
    Lows and the highs
    And almost goodbyes
    As odd as it get's like no which still is amazing
    To be alive
    It's a beautiful life [4x]

    by foureyed at 02:56 pm
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    Nov 5, 2006
    ma guy from next door


    OMG! he's here.HHHHHHMMMMMMMM..nuts, i'm already attached and so was he.But things are still nice, i still like him and i wonder if he still like me too..uhhhhh, though  sometimes if i could choose between them.i'll choose my guy right now, i love him and want to stay with him forever.
    i don't know crush-infatuation-waah my world go crazy whenever i see him.My youngeer bro and my friend like him too for me.But love didn't agree.guess there's someone for him and for me and i hope it's my special someone right now.He's a friend of my best friend's bro so i only see him once in awhile.GOD! help me get awayfrom this tease.




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    by foureyed at 12:43 pm
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    Just had jogging this morning!

     me and my beshi-Sheila with her mom and my aunt went to this "not-so-Far"  empty subdivision and we had a great morning to spend together.well, FYI..tomorrows another day FOR us to start studying again.BAck to normal from ythis soOOO busy  and few probs of Sembreak.Whooops! so really Damn bored but i don't think i'm already ready to go back studynig...waaaaaaaahh! if tym can stop?i miss messing around with my friends there, and getting busy..blah blah blah..im outta here... 





    by foureyed at 08:18 am
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    Oct 26, 2006
    dreaming is not bad at all?

    "never dream of something you can never have.....which you can never live in reality...

    set aside optimism and destiny.Dreaming is not bad at all..being real is just better"

    *but who knows maybe there are oppurtunities for you that you don't mind at all but can help you to make your dream in reality ayt?

     


    by foureyed at 01:41 am
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    problem for a long time

    guys, i want to tell you,youshould all know your true friends..because me? i'm still haunted by my past prob which is..my life can be in danger all the time. i'm still paranoid to every place i go,every streets,malls,school...

    i have this prob which i want to share, it happened when me and my friends have our get-together on a summer night and it ended up into an extreme-EXTREME- prob....i have this uuhmmmm how can i introduce her...i have this someone formerly a friend of mine which that night she blames me of something that turned out to be a problem to all...after that event she threatens me of what she can do in the future and threatened me to watch my back......

    this person im talking about wasn't that bad at me before but because what happened that night..which everyone think that it's really not my fault and it's her decision not mine......but from that i really  don't known her as that...

    reallY a NIGHTMARE for me,though life continues and i'm still here, just beleiving that god will be at my back all the time:)


    by foureyed at 01:30 am
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    Oct 25, 2006
    sorry got sometihng to for the past few months:)

     hello there, hmm, after all of busy stuffs, i'm back to check my account.From busy scheds, problems, and whatsoever....

    got some lOVe probs........so i have to fix that first.well, ever stuck in a situation where you're always wrong but you seem you don't see your faults.that's where i came from, don't know what will my next moves, like you are under paranoia whow....i might be crazy....this is my prob!i maybe dumb_stupid_or what you want me to be_ BUt think of yourself first...........


    by foureyed at 03:06 pm
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    touchy lines which makes me melt...

     

      If you love someone you say it,... you say it right then, out loud,... or the moment just... passes you by. - the 'Best Friend' to Julia Roberts My Best Friend's Wedding

    * can you imagine the time you think your going to be in love of someone at that time you shout out loud that you're inlove?waaah... im talking bout when your in public*sWeeT!

    When you love someone, And you love them with your heart, It never disappears When you're apart. And when you love someone And you've done all you can do, You set them free, And if that love was true.... When you love someone It will all come back to you - Forget Paris

    *in silence love can be heard,destiny determines who comes into our lives but it's the heart that decides who stays inside...*

    A heart can be broken, but it will keep beating just the same. - Ninny Threadgoode: Fried Green Tomatoes

    *it only says, when we're from a heartbreak, life continues...*

    I hate the way you talk to me, and the way you cut your hair. I hate the way you drive my car. I hate it when you stare. I hate your big dumb combat boots, and the way you read my mind. I hate you so much it makes me sick; it even makes me rhyme. I hate it, I hate the way you're always right. I hate it when you lie. I hate it when you make me laugh, even worse when you make me cry. I hate it that you're not around, and the fact that you didn't call. But mostly I hate the way I don't hate you. Not even close, not even a little bit, not even at all. - Ten Things I Hate About You

    * can relate to this...waaah....it's like you keep on hating some of his attitudes but you also keep loving him moOOORE*

     

     


    by foureyed at 01:36 pm
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    Coin operated boy Sitting on the shelf he is just a toy But i turn him on and he comes to life Automatic joy That is why i want a coin operated boy Made of plastic and elastic He is rugged and long-lasting Who could ever ever ask for more Love without complications galore Many shapes and weights to choose from I will never leave my bedroom I will never cry at night again Wrap my arms around him and pretend.... Coin operated boy All the other real ones that i destroy Cannot hold a candle to my new boy and i'll Never let him go and i'll never be alone Not with my coin operated boy...... This bridge was written to make you feel smittener With my sad picture of girl getting bitterer Can you extract me from my plastic fantasy I didnt think so but im still convinceable Will you persist even after i bet you A billion dollars that i'll never love you Will you persist even after i kiss you Goodbye for the last time Will you keep on trying to prove it? I'm dying to lose it... I want it I want you I want a coin operated boy. And if i had a star to wish on For my life i cant imagine Any flesh and blood could be his match I can even take him in the bath Coin operated boy He may not be real experienced with girls But i know he feels like a boy should feel Isnt that the point that is why i want a Coin operated boy With his pretty coin operated voice Saying that he loves me that hes thinking of me Straight and to the point That is why i want A coin operated boy.
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